Wednesday, February 22, 2012

A Stranger in India


I’m breaking the number one rule all adults have drilled into every child’s mind: “Don't talk to strangers”.

I am breaking this rule in a foreign country: India.

India, right now, is packed with sweaty buyers and yelling sellers shoving merchandise into peoples’ faces, tourists scrambling around to find the best sales and cows loitering amidst everything. My hair feels like it was going to go up in flames any minute now and my ears had long been used to the constant stream of noise coming from everywhere. The air is thick, greasy and coated with dust, barely allowing me to breathe but I honestly don’t have time to worry about how much oxygen I am inhaling because I need to shop. Fast.

Ten minutes have passed and I haven’t bought a thing. No one will accept any of my, now useless, American dollars. I am sneaking looks as my friends reached out at necklaces and bracelets, demanding the right size of the right kind and getting just that, bargaining to the lowest prices and shoving their bought goods into their bags. I really need to shop.

I turn to the man on my left who stands tall in his stall under the shade of the wooden roof; he stares me down when I ask him, “Do you know where I can exchange my money?”

He looks at me confused and somewhat offended, before calling on a man selling colourful powder and Indian marking stamps. I already met him when I first entered the market, he was wearing an energetic smile as he grabbed my hand and started stamping markings whether you want it or not. He’s wearing a thick leather jacket despite the heat and has a tray of his goods hanging from straps around his shoulders. After a short discussion, his head bobs an “Okay” and starts down the path through the market.

He marches further and further away. I start to follow him once I realize he isn’t going to wait for me. I still find myself holding tight to the straps of my backpack, my fingers tap a shaky rhythm on them. I am glancing around me and once far enough, I start to look back every now and then. There are more shops down the path alongside small temples and beggars on the steps. Sometimes we scoot to the side so a motorcycle can pass or when a car decides to barge through the crowd.

The shop we stop at was really not much too look. The beige acts as a camouflage with the dust in the air and even then it looked like every other shop we passed.

 We step in and the sunlight is sucked out as the door closes, the hot air is replaced with cold, crisp air, the hard pavement is now soft and carpeted, the cluster of voices in my ears drown out to one soft murmur of a saleswoman and the hum of the air-conditioners.  

I step into a new room and the double doors are shut behind me with a small click. The room is bathed in soft yellow by carefully carved lights that are almost as carefully carved as everything else in the room. There is a glass case wardrobe filled with decorative ornaments at each available wall. The money exchanger was like an Indian version of the Godfather, looking up at me but also looking down at me behind his wire-rimmed glasses as he sits upon his wooden throne. He dons a clean cut suit and has his money laid out in front of him in stacks secured with rubber-bands. His hands play with the cash as he inquires why am I here. I am quick to tell him about my dilemma but he takes his time to help me. He inspects me for a moment and I am paralysed. I am careful to not show more emotion as him as if he will shoot me down if I show any sign of weakness. He is slowly counting out the rupees, clicking numbers into his small calculator. I rock back and forth now that he isn’t looking, my eyes are now allowed to dart around and I tap and tap on the straps of my bag.

“Here you go,” he calmly hands me my money and I dashed out through the doors, through the crowd, and joined my group.

“Where’d you go just now?” someone asked.

“Oh, nowhere.”

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Persuasive Writing-Gut Feelings on Ranting

         Criticism of anything is usually a huge punch in the gut. Whether it's a correction on an essay or professional art critique of your piece, it hurts. It's not just a critique of what you have done or made that stings but it's also when someone comments on that favourite band or favourite book of yours that hits home. Let's face it, there has been at least one time where someone makes a demeaning comment of that one thing you love and you instantly have your game face on or NO-YOU'RE-WRONG-I'M-RIGHT face on. I completely understand, the whole thing is quite painful because sometimes your preferences are a representation of yourself and for someone to point out a fault in it is to point out a fault in you and suddenly everything is personal and everything hurts. But it doesn't matter whether it is personal all over, read it first. Read it and think before you say anything, anything at all.

           My friend once wrote a journal about a person who did a whole analysis essay on this one story she absolutely loves, adores, and, at the time, obsessed over. She was a classic 'fangirl' of this series and was in absolute rage when she read it. Wait, no, she didn't read it. She read the title and instantly threw a huge hissy fit over it. The essay talked about how the show was not feminist in the sense that it made the stereotypical damsel in distress and the stereotypical sexy female villain but the essay also stated that at some points it does support the female side of the story and let them have the spotlight at some points. I read it all and it was completely rational. My friend on the other hand, didn't and was very irrational about it.

        She claimed the author of the essay had no right to write such a thing and said that the author 'probably never watched the show' and was completely incompetent. She even stated that she had sent a rant comment but the author disabled comments on her piece because 'she was a total coward' (my friends words). She mentioned that she didn't read it because it was 'way too boring, tl;dr' but if she DID read it she would've realized that the evidence that the author used makes it clear that she was/is still a fan of the show but wanted to share her honest opinion. If she DID read it, she would've realized that the author says that there are some good female characters that beat the stereotype. If she DID read it she would've realized that she disabled comments because so many people like her have sent huge rants to about her article and about half of them have not bothered to read her essay either.

       I found myself face-palming myself as I read my friend's rant. Imagine how embarrassing it is to have to see that one huge rant you made on the internet that was irrational, unreasonable, and ignorant? And imagine how oppressed, hurt, and/or insulted the author must have felt to have so many people complain and insult her about the essay to her even though they've never even gave her analysis one read? This is the internet and though you may feel secure behind the pixelated wall of anonymity , everything you do it leaves a mark. It leaves a mark on the intended reader if they do read it and it leaves a mark on you and your reputation. Nowadays, people look up your name on the internet to see your back story when hiring people for jobs or even just to get to know you and the huge rant you wrote on how 'stupid' someone else is because they don't like your show might just come up. So if you do want to even participate in a debate to defend the reputation of your favourite show, story, book, celebrity or etc. then at least read what that person has to say and take a good look at both sides of the argument. Then you won't look like an idiot or hurt anyone's feelings.